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Dexter & Rita
Face to Face: Dexter and Rita's first time -1x08
Analyzing Dexter and Rita's Relationship
Met Rita after his police sister, Debra, answered a domestic dispute call at Rita's house. She introduced him to Rita, and the two began dating. He sees Rita as a way to make himself appear normal. However, his attatchment to her and her children begins to surface, making him much more vulnerable and leaves him questioning his identity.
Abused by her ex-husband Paul for years, Rita didn't have a lot to hope for until she met Dexter. She views Dexter as the complete opposite of Paul. Her low self-esteem makes it difficult for her to stand up for herself, and she often over-looks Dexter's flaws in order to justify her relationship with him. Later on in the series, she begins to gain more confidence and starts to notice Dexter's suspicious behavior.
with Rita, he gives up control. As he kills Dr. Meridian
the song "Make Me Lose Control" By Eric Carman
begins to play.
Dexter appears to be "asexual" in the first episode. However, he later claims that his reason for not wanting to sleep with Rita is because of his fear that she'll see that he is "empty inside." Not because of his lack of sexual interest.
Rita is not technically "asexual." She seems to crave closeness and appears at times to be aroused against her will (see picture on the right). She is, however, sexually disfunctional. Because her ex-husband raped her for years, she is afraid of sex.
our first image is of Rita opening up the door with light pouring onto her face from outside even though
Once Dexter and Rita finally achieve intimacy, the two seem to have a normal, healthy sex life, often showing Dexter spending the night over at her place. Their first time reveales that Dexter isn't as empty as he claims to be, and that he enjoys sex. It is also hinted that he didn't really enjoy sex with the other women in his past relationships.
Rita is the first to display sexual agression in their realtionship, coming on to him (sometimes reluctantly)on more than one occasion. As her confidence grows, so does her sexual desire, and she soon lets Dexter know when she is really ready. After their first time, Rita shows signs of being comfortable in having sexual intercourse, even initiating the act from time to time.
At the beginning of the first season, we are meant to believe that Dexter does not connect with anyone. And Rita is no exception - at first. Dexter does seem to enjoy his time with Rita as he states in episdoe: 1x02:
"Lately the thing that surprises me most about Rita is how much I like being with her."
Normally (and keep in mind that Dexter is not normal) humans enjoy being around people they feel somewhat of a connection with. Coming from Dexter, we can't take this to mean much, but it does mean something. At times, he seems to go above and beyond for their relationship in order for him to keep her in his life. Some suspect that Dexter feels connected to her due to their violent pasts.
Later on in the series Dexter claims that there are times when he: "feels connected to something, to someone." He does not elaborate, however, it is hinted that he is talking about Rita (and possibly her children) since the scene before shows him becoming emotional over her. - 2x03
Rita does appear to have a connection with Dexter. Or at least she thinks she does. At the start of their relationship, she often misinterprets his signals (e.g. mistakenly thinking that he is sexually
deprived) and is oblivious to his suspicious behavior.
Throughout the series, however, we begin to see a transition with Rita as she and Dexter start to share more of each other's lives. She becomes better at detecting when something is wrong, and she is able to catch inconsistencies in his excuses.
In the same episode "An Inconvenient Lie" in which Doakes calls Dexter a: "good liar," Rita sees right past him when he tells her he stayed for the entire NA meeting, informing him that he is a: "terrible liar." At the end of season 2, the two seem much more connected and honest with each other. (Except for that whole seriel killing thing.) Dexter actually tells her about his mother's murder, and Rita is the first (and presumed only) person to know about Harry's suicide.
Defender" Lila asks Dexter if he has an Oedipus
Complex. The Oedipus Complex is when a man
has an unconscious desire to have sex with his mother.
(Ew, ew, ew.)
Moser's hair was changed from blonde to brown, and
Rita's appearance becomes less and less motherly.
The one thing that is undeniable about Dexter is the protectiveness he feels for Rita and her kids. We first see this when Paul comes back into the picture, and Dexter immediately feels threatened.
Interestingly enough, the two times we see Dexter become violent on impulse is in regards to Rita. The first time is when Paul threatens her and calls her a "skinny *****." Dexter responds by taking a frying pan and hitting him in the head with it. The expression on his face tells us that he didn't expect ot react that way, and in his narration he states: "Harry's first rule was 'don't get emotionally involved.' I think this is why" Well, for a guy who claims to have no emotions, he certainly did. (Huh, I thought Harry's first rule was don't get caught)
The second time is when one of Dexter's victims - Roger Hicks - insults Rita as he's strapped to the death table. Dexter becomes so enraged that he kills him on the spot yelling: "DON'T. . .talk that way about my girlfriend." Again, by the look on his face, it is obvious that Dexter is surprised at his own emtional outburst, and the realization that Rita acutally means something to him is enough to make him go back to the NA meetings.
There are many examples of Dexter's protectiveness for Rita. In season 2 he says: "Before, I would have done anything to protect Rita." When Dexter finds out that Lila snuck into Rita's house, he ends the reltionship with a warning: "Stay away from Rita, stay away from me. Or you will meet the monster."
Rita is not as meek or as mild as one would think. When it comes to her loved ones, she can be quite the mama bear. With Dexter, she seems more protective of his reputation, insisting that he is not like Paul. She also tries to protect him by keeping him away from her serious problems, as we see when Paul's drug dealer comes by to collect his bill, she tells Dexter to not get involved.
When Paul and Paul's sponser, Bob, try to accuse Dexter of setting Paul up, she remains by Dexter's side. And she defends Dexter when her mother expresses her dislike for him.
Rita watering plants, giving them life.
birthday cake, a sign to celebrate life.
"I feel. . .such regret, which is rare for me. Not that I
don't mess up, I do, just never stupendiously. I had you,
and them (the kids) and I had us." - Dexter to Rita
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|mike91848||Dexter & Rita's relationship (page: 1 2 3 4 5 ... last page)||147||Apr 14 2011, 7:05 PM EDT by ninajones|
Thread started: Jun 17 2008, 3:16 PM EDT Watch
Rita is Dexter's direct connection to his attempt to be normal and feel something, if that is even possible for Dexter. Her personality allows for all of his short comings and his strange hours. She loves Dexter and believes he is normal even if a bit odd. Their sexual relationship has evolved from nothing to her inviting him in for 15 minute quickies with the kids home! Rita has grown stronger through season 1 and 2 including all of the pain and disruptions caused by Paul and Lila and Dexter's addiction. Of course she doesn't know his real addition. Season 3 should explore her growth and most likely her demanding more of Dexter. Note that Rita has grown stronger despite Dexter's short comings and Dexter has grown more attached to Rita and the kids showing maybe that he is evolving too.
Any Rita fans out there like me? Hoping for Rita to be the mom of Dexter's child!?!?
|MikeMcEnery||Season 4 Episode 12||1||Dec 15 2009, 7:31 AM EST by shroomer|
|Cyndawg||Wow! Just found this page!||2||Sep 21 2008, 10:30 AM EDT by mike91848|
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I can't believe I haven't discovered this page yet! I love it! As an avid Dexter/Rita relationship proponent, I am thrilled to see all the cute pictures documenting their love!!
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